So right now it's night 2 of 3 and she's with him. That part is ok. I am feeling my way through it as this is really only the second time they have been together physically, and I have a safe place to stay - our home - where I can keep busy and feel comfortable.
Here's the boundary issue - at some point along the line, her lover changed plans and it turns out he will be in town for 2 weeks instead of just one. She ended up inviting him to stay in the second bedroom of our new place together for about 6 nights. I was caught off guard and felt guilty for wanting to turn him out. Now that it's come down to it, I am feeling really unsettled and trapped by this arrangement. He will be here the next 2 weekends as it stands - all the days I have off for myself. I think he is a nice enough guy, but I have no desire to spend much time with him, and I don't want to give up all my space and time with myself and my partner to accomodate him.
I made the mistake of going along with this too easily and trying to be okay with this arrangement. The more I search myself, the less okay I am about it. I am really worried about spending this time with the both of them and being miserable due to my denial of my own self to please my partner. I know that isn't so healthy - but am I reasonable to feel that this is too much too soon. Did I not recongnize an unreasonable request by my partner when she proposed this arrangement.
How do I make it through this without flipping out at both of them. I could really use some words of support.